A future

May. 31st, 2017 12:04 pm
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Today has been a very positive day so far and there seems to be light at the end of the tunnel. This morning we went to the hospital to the breast clinic for a checkup. The Macmillan nurse, asked if my wife had gone back to work and how active she'd been. My wife replied that she wasn't ready and that she was having problems with fatigue and wasn't able to do things. The nurse took us into a side room and said that that wasn't normal and that she should be doing better and that she was relying on me too much to do things. That we both needed to get on with life and we have gotten stuck. She said it was understandable with everything but that my wife's confidence had been shaken and she needs counselling to deal with everything and that was holding her back.
She also said something which was nice to hear that I had it in someways worst because I have been trying to help there's not much I can do and that recovery was really holding me back from getting a job and a life and that, she was relying on me to do everything which is very stressful and really wasn't doing me any good at all. I said I had real problems coping and I could only really feel I could go back to work when I knew my wife was able to go back to work and look after herself. The nurse kinda told my wife off and said you need to push yourself and do more and more by yourself.
Afterwards my wife was made it sound like I was holding her back and stopping her from doing things, this annoyed me a little bit because what I've said is if she has done something to take it easy and not push herself too hard. As in don't expect to run a marathon start slowly and build up, my wife has seen it as go max out and then don't try. The nurse said do simple things like get up and get a drink yourself, go for a walk, dress yourself. She said quite rightly my wife's the only one who knows how she feels and is therefore in control.
It feels nice that I might be able to get a bit more of my life back and become less of a carer as she'll be able to do more herself and rely on me less. We both feel we've been given a life and future back. The nurse said sure they'll be worries around appointments and they might be for years and years to come but you need to live your lives and breast cancer shouldn't be your life.

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